Showing posts with label self. Show all posts
Showing posts with label self. Show all posts

Monday, January 31, 2011

A Typical Sunday: Homework, Self-Compassion, & Letter

Why do teachers all have to give tests at the same time? I have 3 tests this week alone! Gah, and they're all my first tests for these classes, so I'm already nervous enough. On top of things, I don't like one of my classes, abnormal psychology. It's not really my favorite subject; I would much rather be taking another social psych or neuroscience class instead.

Besides stress, I am quite excited about my research proposal topic this semester. The topic I chose is relatively new to the world of psychology, and I've talked about it before. It's called self-compassion. I'm not exactly sure what my proposal will be or what my research project will be, but I know it will have something to do with self-compassion and perhaps aggression or self-esteem.

Last thing for this post... I decided to write a missionary yesterday. I haven't sent my letter yet because I'm not sure if I have written all I want to say. I'm also kinda nervous about writing him. I mean, we were friends in school, but I never asked to write so I have to ask his bishop what the address is that I'd write to. Hopefully he enjoys the letter and doesn't think I'm weird or something like that. I actually don't know if anyone knows who I'm talking about here. Oh well...

Well, that is all for tonight. Until next time...

Friday, September 24, 2010

Self-Compassion Views

Yesterday I had the most interesting discussion in one of my classes. We were talking about self-esteem, self-compassion, moral values, agression, and stress. The whole idea of the class was to read these articles and figure out how they all related to one another. And, I have a new direction I want to take! I'd always thought I would go into psychological research with something to do with development psychology or something like that, but now, I am most definitely going to try to study social psychology. And it's because of one specific subject: self-compassion.

A lot of people probably don't know the difference between self-esteem and self-compassion. Basically, self-esteem is a very debated topic in psychology where some psychologists believe that low self-esteem is bad, but also that narcissism (extreme high self-esteem) is bad. They've tried to show that low self-esteem creates aggression and behavioral problems. This has a small correlation, but it's not really significant. One of my professors actually believes that self-esteem has very little to do with behavioral problems, and I agree with that theory.

On the other hand, people low in self-compassion generally blame themselves for problems in their lives, and do not know how to deal with inconsistencies between their inner mental state and outer physical world. Self-compassionate people understand that they do make mistakes, they have adversities in their lives, but they also realize that beating themselves up over these problems will not solve anything. They tend to take rejection and failure better than those with low self-compassion.

So, here's my theory. Self-esteem doesn't really have an affect on behavior; rather, self-compassion is the underlying agent to behavioral problems. It makes sense. If people dwell on the mistakes they make, they won't care to progress in life. But, if they can learn from their mistakes and move on, they will progress in life. This seems like common sense.

I know I had more insights to this subject last night, but I can't remember them right now... I should have written them down. This very possibly could be my independent research project someday. Perhaps even one of my research studies in grad school. Who knows...

No matter what, I'm excited to learn more about self-compassion and self-concept. It fascinates me!

Monday, September 20, 2010

Charlie St. Cloud Review

Tonight, Nicki and I went to a movie. It was weird because I think tonight might have been senior night or something at the two dollar movies... Anyways, we went to see Charlie St. Cloud and I am in love! Zac Efron is on of my favorites and he really got into his character. I almost cried at some parts. I don't want to spoil it, but I must say there is a definite twist in the plotline later in the movie. I thought it was pretty predictable, but then it throws you for a loop. I love movies that do that! If I know what's coming, it's not nearly as entertaining.

So, we've been talking about the Self in my social psychology class, and this movie was practically a movie of self-discovery through the eyes of others as well as oneself. It was fascinating to see the main character grow in such a way, but also to fall and wallow in confusion and saddness for a time. I was fascinated by it at least; I don't know if other people enjoy this as much as I do.

As a movie, I would definitely recommend seeing it. Zac's character is the ultimate man. I would not mind finding a guy like that someday. My rating: excellent, you must see this movie! Especially if you like romance and drama. And Zac Efron is gorgeous and really plays his character. He's so good! I love it :D

Now to important matters. I finished my stress report today! It is pretty good, but not the best I've written before... It took me forever to figure out how to write in APA format. I can't use easybib anymore because I have to buy a subscription for APA format, so now I get to do all of my reference pages by hand. Yay... :P I'll learn though, hopefully.

I just realized this... I have a miniature glass piano above my bed. Maybe that's not the best place to put a knick-knack... Oh well. It's so pretty and I never actually realized this before. I love the piano, did you know that? My hand is sore from playing today though. And typing. That makes it sore sometimes too. It hurts so i guess it must be time for me to stop.

Sweet dreams.